What is the difference between what you wish to experience in your sexual life and what you are allowed to experience?
Being aware of this difference is vital for the wellbeing of your soul.
I am not suggesting that you have to experience whatever you wish in your sexual life, ignoring what is socially and culturally allowed in this regard.
I am simply inviting you to be aware of what you wish, your fantasies and cravings, regardless of whether you abstain from them or not.
When you lose awareness of what you wish, even if you do not manifest it, your soul, in a nutshell, is bound to die.