When we deposit much confidence or expectations in a person, there is a great risk of disappointment. The people are not in this world to satisfy our expectations, as well as we are not here, to satisfy theirs. We have to be enough for ourselves…always. And when we are with somebody, we have to be aware that we are together because we like it, because we want and we feel well, never because we need to be together. One person doesn’t need the other, they complete themselves… not for being halves, but for being entire, and wish to share common objectives, joys and life. With the time, you realize that to be happy with the other person, at first, you need not to need this person. You also perceive that the person who you love (or you think you love) and doesn’t want anything with you, definitively, is not the man or the woman of your life. You learn to like you, to take care of you, and mainly to like who likes you. The secret is not to take care of the butterflies and yes, to take care of the garden so that the butterflies come up to you. At the end you will find not who you were looking for, but who was looking for you!
Mário Quintana, born 30 July 1906, Brazilian poet, Sun in Leo, Moon in Scorpio.